Control

Am I Controlling or Influencing My Child?

When we raise our kids to be self-sufficient and healthy adults, we can be their role models for behavior. They might look to us to get their needs met and set an example for dealing with life’s natural ups and downs. One of the important aspects of Dr. Charles Fay’s ideas presented in “Love and […]

Manipulate

Why Is My Kid Manipulating Me?

When our kids manipulate us, we can feel frustrated or angry that our kids seem to be resorting to such means. They might use yelling, tantrums, lying, name-calling, or making us feel bad to get what they want. In more extreme cases, kids might call child protective services on us, make threats, run away, or […]

Skate

Incremental Rewards to Motivate Your Kid’s Success

Creating rewards and consequences for your child’s behavior can help to put them on the pathway to success in their recovery. During a coaching call with parents, Fire Mountain’s Aaron Huey discusses the importance of rewards and delaying rewards in dealing with problematic behaviors. At Fire Mountain Residential Treatment Center, family involvement is paramount to […]

Mom

How to Use “If-Then” Rewards and Consequences

Behavioral techniques are useful in creating consequences for your child. When teenagers act out with problematic behaviors, like cutting, drug use, drinking, promiscuity, or other issues, the need to gain control over the situation or retain authority might trump using natural consequences to teach vital life lessons. Parents might struggle with the notion that they […]

Upset

Am I Enabling My Child’s Addiction and Destructive Behavior?

One of the most common thoughts and concerns of family members of individuals with problematic behaviors and addictions is whether we enable the behavior. We worry that there is something that we are or are not doing that is driving our child to use substances, alcohol, or engage in other behaviors, like cutting or promiscuity. […]