When our kids are dealing with struggles or feeling troubled, we may have our own feelings about their behaviors. We might start to feel guilty or upset at ourselves. Remember that these issues are not your fault. Behavioral and emotional issues can be resolved and worked on. They are not indications of failure on your part as a parent. Even still, you may feel uncertain about what is going on with your child and feel distressed due to these feelings. You might feel worried and excessively anxious while your child is going through these issues. Fire Mountain has your back and can help you as a parent learn to cope with these feelings. We are all in this together to help your family.
The first step to helping your kids and bringing healing to your family is to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. If you are feeling anxious and worried about the future—especially during the current uncertainty of the pandemic—you may need to learn ways of managing these feelings. When you are strong and stable yourself, you can be there for your family. You can also help them by sharing your own vulnerabilities about your own feelings of anxiousness and how you have worked on them, either now or in the past. Your kids may feel more comfortable opening up and talking to you if they feel like you have also had problems that you have overcome. Your kids may feel frightened to admit that they have issues if they feel like you never had emotional struggles of your own. Let your kids know that their issues are not character faults or signs of being a weak person. Their issues are things that can be worked on to build their resilience and strength in life.
Dealing With Your Own Anxiety
You can incorporate some self-care activities into your life to help manage your own feelings of anxiety. You might even be able to help your child by setting an example for how to properly deal with emotions. Some of these coping skills can even be ways of spending time with your family and building stronger relationships. Keep some of the following tips in mind:
- Getting exercise
- You might want to take a walk by yourself or you invite family members along. Plan a day trip with your family to go hiking or out to a park!
- Begin an exercise routine online. There are a number of videos available to get started.
- Phone apps also have plenty of fitness challenge options and teach you new workouts. These can be especially helpful if your regular gym has been shut down recently.
- Start a new sport or hobby. Activities, like soccer, basketball, and tennis are usually relatively easy to begin and accessible in community parks.
- Spending time outdoors can be therapeutic and help you deal with anxiety!
- Find new hobbies
- Having hobbies and focusing on our passions can help us get out of our own heads.
- We can share these passions with our children.
- If our child is not interested in our hobbies, they might be inspired to pursue their own when they see our excitement.
- Be careful not to get too buried into your own activities that you are not shutting out your familial obligations. Sometimes, hobbies can be obsessions and you might be prone to overworking as a way of dealing with stress. Find a balance!
- Try Meditation, Mindfulness, or Yoga
- There are a number of guided meditation and mindfulness exercises available online.
- Yoga can also help you relieve stress. You might find classes in your community or online.
- Talk to Others and Seek Support
- We are all dealing with a difficult and stressful situation right now. There is no shame in feeling overwhelmed and talking with someone about it.
- Seek support for yourself and talk about your feelings with your partner or friends.
- Join a support group or speak with a counselor.
- Take Care of Your Physical Health
- Eating nutritious and healthy meals with your family can help you manage your stress. Unhealthy foods can negatively impact the way you feel. You might be surprised about how much food can affect the way you feel mentally and emotionally!
- Get adequate amounts of sleep. Sleep can have a great impact on your mood; never underestimate the importance of a good night’s rest!
- Minimize Your Time on Social Media
- We all like to be informed about what is going on in the world and kept up-to-date on current recommendations due to the pandemic, but social media can often overwhelm us with too much information and too many opinions.
- Remember to not be all consumed by social media and the news. Limit your time on social media and focus on your health and your family.
We might be experiencing higher levels of stress than ever during this pandemic. Our lives have been disrupted and we are spending much more time at home. We might be dealing with our own anxiety and worry about our children and family members. To be there for our families, we need to be there for ourselves. We need to be able to take care of ourselves before we can truly help others. Be sure to take time for self-care and learn how to manage your own feelings of anxiety. You might be setting a good example for your family as they see how you are caring for your own health and wellness. You can encourage them to do the same and invite them to join in some of your activities to remain well. If things are getting too overwhelming for you and your family, you may need additional support. The staff at Fire Mountain Residential Treatment Center are here for you. Call us today at (303) 443-3343.